More evidence of evidence against the unethical “feel-good” mentality and half-baked educational ideology of “motivation” infecting society. Actually, success just boils down to good old-fashioned discipline, internal locus of control (taking own responsibility instead of blaming external factors), grit and determination. I believe some (I didn’t say “all”) of the gender and ethnic cultural (“racial”) gaps can be explained by this. For example, girls tend to be more mature and disciplined, whether or not they are “motivated”, to just do it. Boys take some time to catch up in this area.
In my own personal experience, the going can be tough at first, but you feel a sense of elation and accomplishment after you have succeeded (e.g. doing a tough problem or piece of work). So it is not so bad after all. If the boys and certain communities that are behind the curve learn patience and perservence, I am sure they will do better.
What about those people from poorer families? Unfortunately,
if they fall behind (for whatever reason) they seldom get much of a second chance in the system. Children from wealthier families have an advantage, because they usually have good role models for the right work ethic, success values, and strategies from their parents, plus social connections with like-minded friends. If children from wealthier families falter, their parents can hire personal coaches for them. If worse comes to worst, they can at least get a job as a janitor (if not sales manager) at one of their parent’s companies.
“Life is unfair, get used to it.” — Bill Gates
Actually, the good values and work ethic apply for everyone. It is just that the rich kids seem to get more 2nd, 3rd or 4th chances (unfair, yes, mas c’est la vie). People from poorer socio-economic backgrounds should not use their more-endowed loafers as an excuse for not doing what they should do. Anyway, children of rich people may just ran out of cash and crash, exemplifying the Chinese curse “Wealth does not last beyond three generations“.
When will people learn to let go of their cherished myths, shifting the blame to the government, to teachers, to the school system instead of taking responsibility themselves? Will shifting the blame ever help them succeed in anything? We need to get this mentality fixed with when more and more jobs get deplaced (overseas) and replaced (by technology) and this will continue to get worse, especially with the great advances in Artificial Intelligence.
Curated by Lefouque